Robert Ward has turned his 23 years of experience teaching and reflection on middle school youth into a handbook for parents perplexed by youth behavior, perhaps because we’ve forgotten to reflect on things from the standpoint of the child. This book has changed the way I parent and the way I teach. Every time I read five pages I have stop and change what I’m doing to fix a problem.
In its own modern way, this book is a restatement of Dale Carnegies “How to Win Friends and Influence People,” in which Carnegie shows that people don’t actually want what you want, they want what *they* want, but if you figure out what *they* want, you can use it to get what you want too.
The competent parent, according to Ward, provides a household with Leadership, Love, Laughter, and Learning. These characteristics of the family environment will result in the young person’s needs being met, and once their needs are met, problems of all types will dissipate. For you and for them.
Parenting, my mother used to tell me, is not for the faint of heart, but with Ward’s book, you can expect yourself and your young ones to be strengthened by his positive practices that prepare people to be successful adults! And to see that happen is why we all started raising these small people, isn’t it? No, it’s not an easy fix, but I believe that, if you take his steps, a fix it will be, and when we’re talking book about parenting self-help, what more could you ask?
This review originally appeared as a reader review of the book an Amazon.com.